I started taking the contraceptive Pill at 15. At 19, I had an implant inserted. Then, a decade after starting, I stopped using hormonal contraception. My decision was mainly based on my growing disbelief at how little I knew about my own reproductive health.

At 15, at 19, at 22, all I’d known was that I did not want to get pregnant. And all I’d had to do was make an appointment with my doctor, pick my poison from the menu of contraception on offer, receive no guidance, ask no questions, fail to read the leaflet handed to me, swallow a tablet I knew nothing about once a day and get on with my life. Easy.

I have visited a doctor several times with concerns that my contraception might be adversely affecting me. Each time, I’ve been reassured that whatever symptom I was worried about had another explanation. Anxious? Exam stress. Overly emotional? Family stress. No energy? Life stress. I once summoned up enough courage to tell a doctor I was worried the pill was the reason I had no interest in sex with my partner. She laughed, asked me which magazine I’d read that in, and told me it was common for people to grow apart at my age.

Hormonal contraception is the only medication we take without being sick. It can impact our emotions, mental health, quality of life and long-term fertility. Yet we are not educated about it.

As I learned more about the impacts of artificial hormones on emotional wellbeing, it started to frighten me to think of how regularly women say “I didn’t feel like myself” when describing contraception that didn’t work for them. I worried that if I’d been using artificial hormones since the age of 15, they could be affecting or even creating parts of what I thought of as ‘myself’.

I’d also been in the dark about the extent to which hormonal contraception affects body literacy. If you’d asked at any point over the past few years, I think I would have said that I knew my body quite well. I’ve never felt too terribly uncomfortable in my body, but never really consciously comfortable in it either.

I’ve learnt more about my own body in the past year than in the rest of my life combined.

Since stopping hormonal contraception I feel connected to my body in a way that I never have before. I feel like I’ve woken up. It’s an incredible and a terrifying feeling, because I’m horrified to realise that I didn’t know I was asleep.

As I’ve tried to educate myself about natural menstrual cycles – which I’m now experiencing for the first time in my adult life – I feel more alert to the signs and signals my body sends me. I’m working on building my knowledge of what’s happening at different stages of my cycle, and I feel more able to listen to and respect what my body wants and needs at each.

I find my emotions have far less power to stop me in my tracks now that I can better pinpoint the reasons I might feel the way I feel from one day to the next. I feel more energetic and less anxious. I’m more motivated to exercise, my libido is higher, I’m less easily overwhelmed. My hair is thicker and shinier. I feel more confident than I ever have in my life.

It is essential to acknowledge that the pill and other forms of contraception gave women unprecedented freedom and equality in the past and continue to empower women all over the world today. Access to contraception is linked inextricably with feminism and the fight for gender equality. Having grown up in Scotland, I am in a massively privileged position to have the access that I do to contraception, information and services. I also know that for many women with certain medical conditions, the pill and other hormonal contraception are absolutely the best options.

My point is that, despite the layers of privilege within my own life, I didn’t know I had a choice. I didn’t know there was choice as to whether or not to use hormonal contraception at all.

If we each have a right to contraception then surely we each have a right to make an informed choice about it. It’s not about saying one way is best, or telling anyone what they should or shouldn’t do. It’s about the basic fact that you should never feel powerless over your own body.

In the 1960s, the pill was incredibly liberating for women. In 2017, not having to rely on huge pharmaceutical companies or damaging the environment to prevent pregnancy, and to know how my own body works? That sounds liberating to me.

When it comes to contraception, whatever you choose to do is entirely your choice to make. Your body is yours alone. But knowledge is power. It feels like I have a whole world to learn about, and I’m excited to be at the beginning of a long road to better understanding and appreciating my body.

I’m excited to understand and demystify this cycle taking place within me every single month, and to harness the power within it.

If you’ve had your own experience of shifting from hormonal to natural contraception, or if you have suggestions of things I should be reading/following/researching – please feel free to share in the comments below!

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  1. This is SO awesome, Eleanor. And so relevant.
    I’ve been speaking with my girlfriends these past few weeks who haven’t had their period in 4 years. They were put on the pill when they were 11 for headaches. Now they are 27, and have no idea what’s going to happen when they come off the pill. Another friend was having tough symptoms related to her period, was put on the pill, and within a month her hair was falling out, her symptoms were 10x worse, and she felt out of control. She stopped using it and never went back, but her body hasn’t corrected itself yet.
    Doctors give these things out like M&Ms without 1) testing our baseline hormone levels, or 2) making us fully aware of the side effects. Well done you for raising these questions. I’m confident that by working with doctors, asking questions and being ‘heard’ by our OBGYNs we can use (or choose not to use) the pill with confidence and knowledge.

    1. Thank you so much for reading and commenting Sami! I completely agree, it can seem like the Pill is given out as the solution for every ailment a woman could possibly have. Cramps? Take the pill. Acne? Take the pill. Feeling moody? Take the pill. Don’t like the pill? Take a different pill. I hope your girlfriends have more positive experiences in the future and start to feel healthier again soon!

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