Let’s Get Men Talking about Gender Equality

Last week was International Women’s Day. The very name is enough, for some men, to get their head raging and their tweeting fingers typing. ‘A day for women?! But when is International Men’s Day?’ they quip, hopelessly unaware of their male privilege (and also ignorant of the facts – it’s on the 19th November in case you were wondering).

But, aside from the fact that there is actually a parallel day for men, the more pertinent point is that they are questioning the need for a day for women – a day to celebrate the achievements of women the world over, and a day to campaign for so many still-unsolved women’s issues.

Why did millions of people mark a special day last week for women?

Even in 2016, hundreds of thousands of women and girls are at risk of FGM (female genital mutilation), women and girls are forced into unwanted marriages, and honor violence is rampant. And not just in what some may see as the ‘third world’, some far-away existence removed from their everyday lives. These issues – these affronts to the basic human rights of women – are happening right here in America and other countries.

Honor Diaries – a documentary film that highlights female activists tackling these issues, and that was launched two years ago on International Women’s Day 2014 – has released never-before-seen footage, and is calling on us to get men talking.

In the same way that the HeForShe campaign is based on the idea that gender equality is an issue that affects all people—socially, economically and politically—, men must also face up to the abuses against women taking place and highlighted in Honor Diaries.

And in the same way that HeForShe seeks to actively involve men in the gender equality movement (which has traditionally been dominated by women), the same must be done in the fight against FGM, honor violence and forced marriage. Only by engaging men, and ensuring that they don’t feel left out of the picture, can we tackle such important, and widespread, global issues.

Women have achieved so much on so many issues. Women are only half of the global population, and it is imperative that men get involved in the conversation, and join the brave women campaigning for change.

 

Cover Photo Credit: Arne Hoel/World Bank, Flickr Creative Commons

Virginity Testing: Violating the Rights of Women

Virginity testing. It just sounds bad, doesn’t it? Unpleasant, violating and humiliating. Just a few of the words that come to mind when I think about what it must be like to be subjected to a virginity test. You can probably guess what the whole point to the test it: to test to see if a woman or girl is still a virgin. Another way of looking at it is that it’s a test to see whether the female has had premarital sex.

Virginity testing is widely practiced throughout the Middle East, Northern Africa and a few other African countries. Although virginity testing has been a practice for a long time, it received the most attention during the Arab Spring, when Egyptian women protesters reported being given the ‘virginity test’ against their will by military forces after being arrested for protesting against the Egyptian government. For many women living in these areas, it is just a part of life. The testing process is completely invasive and not at all reliable no matter what method is used (there are a few methods that are used, and even the method that checks to make sure the hymen is intact doesn’t take into account that hymens can break from things other than intercourse).

So, who gets to order these tests and why? It’s not the choice of the women receiving the test, that’s for sure. The test can be used against women in a number of ways. In Egypt, it was a form of intimidation by the government against female protesters. In South Africa, it is a response against the fear of the HIV/ AIDS epidemic and is also a threat to women who are found to be virgins as some believe, inaccurately, that sex with a virgin will cure AIDS. In Iraq, men can even bring their new wives to court just by accusing her of not being a virgin. Failed tests, whether accurate or not, can lead to a woman being shunned by her family and stigmatized by society. These tests are particularly dangerous to women and girls given the high priority virginity has in Muslim society; sometimes leading to honor killings when a family believes that their unmarried female relative is no longer a virgin and thus has dishonored the family.

But, besides the fact that the test is flawed and invasive, the real issue is that virginity testing is a complete violation of women’s rights. While authorities who condone the practice say it is to help protect a woman’s purity, in reality it is just one more tactic used against women to keep them oppressed and unequal in the societies they live in. It is another tool that men and authorities can use to ensure that women do not have equal rights and have no control over their own bodies.

A clinic in Iraq where virginity testing takes place.

What can be done?

What can be done to help fight against virginity testing? Of course, one great way is to educate yourself on the issue and stay updated on news stories related to women being forced to receive the invasive practice. Raise awareness by telling your friends about it, share recent news stories related to virginity testing on your social media pages and blog. Find human rights based organizations, like ForceChange, to petition governments that use virginity testing to condemn the practice and promote better sex education.

I was a bit surprised when I was researching virginity testing to learn that there are not very many organizations out there working to raise awareness to end the practice. Maybe this is because the issue never really received much publicity prior to the Arab Spring, so there hasn’t been much mobilization behind it. Often organizations already working for women’s rights lump virginity testing in with violence against women. This is true, it is a form of violence against women and the work of these organizations to protect women’s rights are essential to the cause. But virginity testing is its own unique violation against women that deserves its own recognition. I hope that one day organizations fighting to end virginity testing will emerge and influence the lives of millions of women. Who knows? Maybe the person that starts one of these organizations will be you or someone you shared a story with about the dangers of virginity testing.

The first featured image is from REUTERS.

The second featured image is from AFP.