The Power of Partnering with a Breastfeeding Mother

I’ve learnt that we do the best we can with the tools we have! When a breastfeeding mother is empowered to trust her body, to believe her body is incredible and uniquely designed to offer tailor made nutrition to her baby, something beautiful has happened. She is equipped with the tools to breastfeed her baby – the mindfulness to trust her body. She may face hiccups along the way but she’ll have the innate strength to continue and reach out for support if needed.

Breastfeeding is the biological norm but it is not yet the social norm. When a mother chooses to breastfeed, every one of us has the responsibility to protect and support her. By doing so we’ve started a partnership with her.

Breastfeeding partnerships matter, a lot! Not just at home with a partner and family but also at work and socially. I was privileged recently to work with a South African company, assisting with compiling their progressive breastfeeding policy for new mothers returning to work wishing to continue to breastfeed/express. It’s times like this when everyone involved learns, and positively accepts the challenge to shift breastfeeding to become the social norm.

Although governments can encourage and protect breastfeeding, socially there is also a lot more tolerance and acceptance needed. I find that lack of support often comes from our social circles, so I encourage mothers to be kind and gentle in their response to the naysayers – it makes the breastfeeding journey more pleasant. Some will support you and some won’t. Those who choose not to, I’d encourage you not to let them get to you. It’s your baby and it’s your body, so just show them!

What I’ve learnt about the importance of partnerships to make breastfeeding work is that it may take some time but it will always be worth it!

My tips on how to become a breastfeeding partner: 

  • Start the breastfeeding conversation whilst your partner is pregnant, listen to her hopes and dreams for her breastfeeding journey
  • Suggest attending a breastfeeding preparation class together – this can prepare you both for the physical and emotional changes that are coming
  • It may mean you needing to reach out for breastfeeding support for your partner – do your homework and find out who offers this support in your area
  • And remember your biggest role is to support – this may be getting up during night time feeds and making her a cup of tea, or it could be a simple shoulder massage reminding her that you on this journey together

Increased Breastfeeding Could Save Over One Million Lives

Last week marked World Breastfeeding Week. Led by the World Alliance for Breastfeeding Action, this was the 25th annual celebration that encourages, advocates, and educates the world about the benefits of breastfeeding.

Though most people understand that breastfeeding is associated with improved health outcomes for individual babies, few understand how far-reaching nursing has the potential to be. In fact, the impact on overall health is so great that UNICEF estimates 1,300,000 lives could be saved each year if more women breastfed their babies.

This infographic from Mom Loves Best demonstrates exactly how important breastfeeding is to the overall health of infants, their mothers, and society as a whole.

Benefits to the Individual

Babies begin reaping benefits from breastfeeding right away. Produced by the mother and tailored to each baby’s individual need, breast milk contains the perfect custom blend of vitamins, fat, and protein. Breast milk also contains powerful antibodies which protect the baby from a number of afflictions. These include common ailments such as respiratory infections, diarrhea, constipation, and ear infection.

The antibodies also protect babies from more serious ailments like meningitis, salmonella poisoning, HIB, and pneumonia as well as chronic illnesses such as asthma, allergic reactions, Crohn’s disease, and Celiac disease. Breastfeeding is also associated with reduced incidents of mental health problems, delays in motor skills, poor communication abilities, and vision problems.

Benefits of breastfeeding even extend into adulthood with a reduced risk of Multiple Sclerosis, schizophrenia and other mental health problems, cardiovascular disease, and many different types of cancer. The breastfeeding mother can also enjoy personal health benefits including a lower risk of postpartum depression, improved bone mass in certain areas, and a decreased risk of ovarian and uterine cancer.

Benefits to Society at Large

The significant health benefits experienced by both breastfeeding mothers and breastfed babies can have a great impact on societal health outcomes if scaled up. The improved health of society’s members reduces its overall medical costs, lowers illness-related work absences, and improves work productivity.

Extended breastfeeding also offers a more natural form of birth and population control and results in better care of society’s children. Communities can enjoy reduced pollution due to the decreased use of commercially-made formula and its associated disposable containers.

While breastfeeding is widely understood to have health benefits for babies, few connect the surprising health outcomes to significant societal socioeconomic advantages. But when you look at the research, it’s clear that breastfeeding really does have the potential to have a miraculous effect on society’s overall welfare.

That’s why, as we look forward from World Breastfeeding Week, it’s important that we all work together for the common good.

Jenny is a mother of two, a writer and a breastfeeding advocate. You can find her trying to help new moms overcome common breastfeeding struggles on her blog, Mom Loves Best.

Real Women’s Experiences of Breastfeeding

To mark World Breastfeeding Week, led by the World Alliance for Breastfeeding Action, we asked women around the world to tell us a little bit about their experience of breastfeeding. We asked them about the partnerships they’d had that mattered most to them, as well as about the ones they wished they’d had but didn’t.

Did you have support in your choice to breastfeed?

“The biggest support came from my husband who made it possible for me to take the time required to breastfeed, especially in the first weeks. Before my child was born I also attended a breastfeeding course free of charge held by a civil society organisation with a teacher who was a former midwife. I also had the possibility to call the hospital with questions, which was very helpful.” – Rebecca, Sweden 

“My husband, mother, and family offered me support. But, only for the first 6 months. After that everybody asked me “when are you going to stop to breastfeeding?”” – Citlali, Mexico 

Photo credit: Julia Wiklander

What support do you wish you had during your breastfeeding journey?

“Breastfeeding classes and/or support groups, arranged by midwives.” – Tina, Denmark

“I really wish that I’d had more support from the health care system, and from the midwives I met during my pregnancy (the once I met in the postpartum period were great).” – Mia, Sweden

“I wish I’d had more time to stay with my baby so that I could breastfeed her every time she needed it.” – Kristen, Mexico

“It still feels like you have to defend why you are choosing to breastfeed for as ‘long’ as you are.” – Inge, Netherlands 

“I wish there had been lactation consultants at the hospital my baby was born in, and lactation consultants who could visit my home as leaving to go to the breastfeeding clinic during the very early days was overwhelming for me as a new mother.” – Jessica, Toronto 

What change do you want to see in your family/community/country when it comes to breastfeeding support for new mothers?

“I wish there could be more respect for the different decisions everyone makes and more information to sustain those decisions.” – Daniela, Mexico

Photo credit: Julia Wiklander

“More facts, more support, more tolerance of public breastfeeding.” – S, Finland 

“I would like the rhetoric around breastfeeding to change. Yes, breastfeeding is natural, but it’s not easy for new moms and babies. They need support in the very early days at the hospital with follow ups at home to address issues and reassure mom.” – Jessica, Toronto 

“Society needs to develop respect for mothers’ need and want to breastfeed. We need to improve public knowledge about breastfeeding.” – Citlali, Mexico

“I wish that there was more information and discussion regarding possible problems with breastfeeding, such as how painful it can be for the mother.” – Rebecca, Sweden

“Apart from every mother making their own choice in this, what I would like to see more of is having someone show a new mother how to breastfeed. Technique is so important to prevent pain and discomfort as well as to get a good latch and feed. Learning this early on, both mother and child, may help other mothers decide to keep going for a little longer. A lacatation specialist once told us moms-to-be how breastfeeding is a learned trait – this was such an eye opener! Even gorillas still learn from observing each other. So many people think it’s an instinctive know-how.” – Inge, Netherlands 

“Better support in terms of education classes on breastfeeding practises during gestation and follow-up support groups post-partum. Even a hot-line to call 24h during the first 6 months with a first child would be great!” – Tina, Denmark

“More time to pump breast milk while we’re in our office or at our jobs.” – Kristen, Mexico

“I hope that breastfeeding one day (soon!) will get the attention that it deserves. That it will be on top of agendas in terms of health and wellbeing for all. I wish that my children will learn about breastfeeding in school, and that it will become more normalized in our society.” – Mia, Sweden 

Photo credit: Inge Butter

Girls’ Globe is committed to ensuring that all mothers have the information, support and protection they need to breastfeed, if they choose to do so. Throughout the month of August, we will be sharing posts, videos and more in line with World Breastfeeding Week’s main objectives. Find more on our campaign page and follow on social media with #WBW2017!

I Breastfed my Baby in Public and Found an Unexpected Ally

A few days ago, my son and I had a rough moment. We were at a family fair in Dumbo, Brooklyn, and he was exhausted but just could not calm down and fall asleep. We’ve been traveling a lot over the pats few weeks, and he is such a great traveler that sometimes I forget that even though he doesn’t always show it, all this change and stimulation must be exhausting and overwhelming – and sometimes it just all becomes too much.

I was desperately pushing him in his stroller around the bumpy streets of Dumbo, and he was screaming and crying uncontrollably. In between his screams I could hear a desperate “Mama, mama… Moooo! Moooo!” – “Mo” is what he calls breastmilk. I knew that if I could nurse him somewhere for a few minutes, he would not only calm down but probably fall right asleep – but I couldn’t find anywhere to sit down. Finally I found a ledge coming out of a wall that was just wide enough for me to prop myself on, so I pulled my shaking, screaming toddler out of the stroller, leaned against the brick wall, and started nursing. Within seconds, his body relaxed and went limp. He held on to my breast with his chubby fingers as he nursed, and his eyes closed while tears were still running down on his cheeks. I felt tears creeping up behind my eyes too because the whole thing got me stressed and worked up and I just needed a moment to compose myself, when I saw a construction worker, man probably in his 50s, walking towards me on the sidewalk – and he was staring straight at me.

My child was pretty much asleep, I was calming down, and I really did not want to have a confrontation with anyone. As surprising as it may be, most of us breastfeeding moms are not closet exhibitionists – we don’t enjoy whipping out our boobs in the public for everyone and their mother to see, and most of us will do what we can to be discreet. I had a scarf and a jacket, you could probably barely even see what I was doing – but this man was staring. And approaching. And getting close.

When I was sure he was about to say something, I lifted my eyes and stared him right back – but before I could get anything out of my mouth, he had already started talking.

“Ma’am, I just wanted to say that what you’re doing for your kid is so important and great. My wife breastfed all our four kids for many years, and I know how hard it can be on the mom – but just keep with it. It’s really a wonderful thing you’re doing for him. Have a great day.”

I was so surprised and struck by what he said that I was barely able to get out a “thank you”, before he already nodded and kept walking past me.

Just like that, this stranger lifted all the stress and anxiety I was experiencing. Just like that, he gave me the one thing I needed – support and acknowledgement. In a matter of seconds, he did more for me than he’ll probably ever know – because, let me tell you, this is hard. And I don’t just mean breastfeeding, but this whole crazy thing we call motherhood and everything that comes with it. It is hard enough as it is, with us mothers often being our own worst enemies and strictest judges – but on top of that, there is so much judgement and criticism from people around us, sometimes well-meaning and other times just plain mean and cruel – that the weight of it all can feel unbearable. And that is why such a small gesture, just a few kind words, a pat on the shoulder, a “You’re doing a great job!”, can mean a world to us.

So from the bottom of my heart, I say:

Thank you, stranger in Brooklyn. I can’t even begin to tell you how much those words meant to me. 

And to everyone who reads this I want to say: Be kind. Before anything else, just be kind. To yourself, to those you love, to strangers. Kindness is always, always, the best route to take, and will always leave the biggest mark.

Featured photo credit: Flávio Correia Lima / Flickr (Creative Commons)

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